Many of us want to show our appreciation to those special service people in our life at holiday time via etiquette tipping. However, trying to figure out what we should tip them is sometimes puzzling. No one wants to be a cheapskate, but over tipping can put a dent in our budget. Then theres trying to figure out who we should tip.

According to Peter Post, director of the Emily Post Institute and author of Essential Manners for Couples, You tip the people who perform services for you year-round, who are there for you when you need them and whom you have a valuable relationship with.

Etiquette tipping experts generally agree that cash is the best way to say thank you during the holidays. However, you dont need to break the bank to show your generosity. Forget about what you ought to do. Do what you can, and do it in the nicest way you possibly can, advices Post.

To make planning your tipping budget easier, heres a quick holiday tipping guide:

CHILD CARE

Babysitter 1 evenings pay and small gift from child
Au Pair 1 weeks pay or a gift and small gift from child
Nanny 1 weeks to 1 months pay and small gift from child
Daycare Providers - $20-$70 each and small gift from child
Childs Teacher Gift (but first check schools gift giving policy)
Coaches/Tutors/Music Teachers/Ballet Instructors, etc. A small gift from child

HOME/CAR CARE

Housekeeper 1 weeks pay or more (depending on length of service)
Trash Collectors/Snowplow Driver - $15-$20 each
Parking Attendants - $10-$35 each or up to half a months parking bill for the group if they regularly provide extra service
Gardener - $20-$50 (tip your gardener in the fall if the last job is a fall clean up)

APARTMENT SERVICE

Doormen - $25-$100 each (those who provide the most service for you should get more than those who you barely see)
Superintendent/Custodian - $50-$300 (tip if theres no doorman and service has been very good, tip less if you tip throughout the year)
Porters/Handymen - $10-$50 each
Elevator Operators - $15-$40 each

PERSONAL CARE

Hairdresser Cost of 1 haircut (or $20-$100); also small gift if youre a regular
Manicurist Cost of 1 session (or $10-$50) and small gift
Personal Trainer Cost of 1 session (or $25 to 1 weeks pay)
Massage Therapist Cost of 1 session (or $50-$100)

PET CARE

Dog groomer or the cost of 1 session and small gift
Dog Walker/Sitter Cost of 1-2 weeks pay (small gift optional)

DELIVERY SERVICES

U.S. Mail Carrier Gifts under $20
UPS Gifts $15 or under
FedEx Gift with value of up to $25 (no cash)
Paper Carrier - $15-$25 for daily delivery ($5-$15 for weekend delivery)